When I see a picture like this or couples in real life, I frequently ask myself, "What does she see in him that I don't see?" There seem to be quite a few mismatched couples, none of which follow the conventional wisdom, like that shared by the First Lady, that things like laughter matter or like Dr. Warren that values matter. There are lots of theories on this, and it's useless to speculate without the facts. Plus, I have discovered that even if you ask them for facts, you frequently get answers that are either disingenuine or unhelpful.
When we were young, parents and other adults told us to not judge books by their covers. They taught us that it's what's on the inside that counts. When you encounter someone on the street, how do you know what's on the inside? Even if you study them and watch them or read about them, you still don't really know frequently who they really are. Do you think that John Wayne Gacy's mother and neighbors and teachers knew that he was the kind of person who would some day become one of the most infamous serial killers? However effective our teachers like to think they were, most of us judge things based on what they have done or what we think they may become. We put a lot of stock into people who say they intend to be firefighters or doctors, and yet I know women who married men in hopes of that future who became nothing of the sort. There seems to be a greater interest in people of great looks and great fortunes rather than great characters, which is probably one reason why there appear to be few people of great character. What's their incentive?
Why do we pick chocolates based on what’s inside but we pick partners based on their colorful candy shell? I see different things than they do apparently. I still don't see what this woman sees in the man to her left.
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